Welcome to the first Everyday Romance post! This series will spotlight real people, and real romance, from first meetings to first kisses, to weddings and all the little “everyday” things that keep love alive in a relationship. I’ll also be posting tips for “everyday romance” in your own lives from time to time, so I hope you’ll join me every Wednesday for this special feature.
Without further ado, today’s post is from Kristen Lamb, with the story of how she found her perfect “Match”.
Let’s see. I tend to be a bit of a homebody. So it’s court-enforced. I still try to stay active…so long as it’s within the stipulated 150 feet of my house, unless I want things to get REALLY interesting.
Okay, okay. I guess I have to try and be serious, which is actually quite difficult. I’m guaranteed to quote “The Holy Grail” and “Blazing Saddles” far more than is socially acceptable. I play chess and even hold delusions of one day being good. I’m flypaper for useless information, thus am quite an asset in a game of Trivial Pursuit…except in sports. Not motivated enough to care. Sorry. Would rather watch grass grow.
My perfect match? Hmmm. Intelligent, fit, Christian (Protestant), conservative, and doesn’t mind the fact I own guns. “Own”…”Stockpile”…all semantics. Right? I like dancing, fine wine (okay, the kind without the screw top) and used to prank call people until Caller I.D. ruined all my fun. Now it’s all about sea monkeys. You must have you’re own…not sharing mine. – Excerpt from Kristen’s Match.com profile
Shawn and I met the second week of December 2008, and all I have to say is that God was certainly working in our lives. Both of us were in our mid-thirties, educated, stable, never married, and no children…yet both very lonely. We worked rather secluded jobs and led somewhat introversive lives because of it (I am a writer, and he’s a buyer). Unwilling to compromise what we wanted in a mate, we persevered through every dating site imaginable…and have the scars to prove it. I was rejected by e-Harmony for being too picky, and I think Shawn had almost accepted life as a single guy whom everyone at Blockbuster Video knew on sight. We knew we weren’t bar people, and felt picking up a date at church just scored too high on the Richter Scale of Creepiness. So we decided to give Match.com a try.
I joined Match on a dare from a friend. We stayed up laughing and making up this insane profile about “wanting to get out more now that the ankle monitor had been removed.” The next day I posted it. As a humor writer, I have to say it was one of my wackiest, craziest pieces with all sorts of references to my Sea Monkey collection and impressive ability to quote “Blazing Saddles.” But what began as a joke and a dare would change my life forever.
I’d always known the man I was looking for, and deep down, believed I’d know him when I saw him. And boy did that ever happen! Shawn wasn’t even a one of the Matches picked for me. I remember looking at the Favorite Five (whatever it’s called) and there was a guy who was military and kind of cute, but not for me (even though I was into military guys). But, being bored, I clicked on the “see others like X” and there was Shawn’s picture. I don’t even remember the profile. I KNEW he was the one I had been praying for. So I sent a wink….and waited by the computer hitting “refresh” every three seconds. An hour later I had a message.
The crazy profile worked. He was smitten by my picture (he is a guy) and my off the wall sense of humor. I was smitten by his great smile and camouflage. Five minutes into talking to him, it was clear he was extremely intelligent and had a wit that rivaled my own—WOW! We had our first date four days later. I made homemade chili, and he helped me hang Christmas lights. We spent the entire holiday season together playing X-Box 360 (I got him addicted) and naming our Sea Monkeys. The more time we were together, the more we knew we could never be apart. Both of us had the same values, hobbies, wants and desires. Two days after my birthday, Shawn proposed to me with his mother’s wedding set she’d left to him when she passed away ten years previously. He said he’d always been looking for the woman worthy enough to wear her ring, and I was that woman…the one he wanted to be with for the rest of his life.
We decided to marry on Good Friday, because it was so appropriate. We met at Christmas, which is a time where the Promise is born. And it seemed fitting to marry at Easter, which is the time where the Promise is fulfilled. The old falls away (Shawn and Kristen) and is replaced by the new (One Flesh—Man and Wife). It was a small yet beautiful ceremony held in a garden courtyard at our church Elder’s home.
Match.com made it possible for us to meet, and we are eternally grateful. We were both good people who had a lot to offer in a relationship, but our lifestyles were such that we likely would never have met any other way. On-line dating (and some divine intervention) brought us together. Now we are enjoying being husband and wife. We still play X-Box and go hiking and always have fun. The best part is that somehow, some way, we fall more and more in love with each other every day as we build the life, marriage and family we always dreamed of. We now have a baby boy, and have decided to print off our profiles to put in the Baby Book, because children would have just been a fleeting dream had two people not fallen in love.
I do believe in love at first sight. We are proof. I think it happens all the time. The problem is that people then fail to understand that love at first sight is just the seed. The relationship is what sprouts forth. You have to nurture it, weed out that which will strangle it, water it, protect it and shoo away those things that would damage it if you ever want it to bloom and grow roots so deep there is no killing it.
Shawn and I grow more and more in love with each other every day. Even though I accidentally killed all the sea monkeys, our love remains.
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