A few weeks back, I posted about couples sharing – or not sharing – a bed at night. Reactions were mixed, and I was actually kind of surprised that keeping separate beds or bedrooms isn’t as uncommon as I’d thought. One commenter posited that it’s healthy for individuals to have their own space – which, while I don’t necessarily agree with in the context of the bedroom, I absolutely agree with in general terms.
My husband is my best friend, hands down. I’d rather spend time with him than anyone else. But there are times I need “space” – time away from everyone/everything, including him. Sometimes it just sort of happens – I workout in the basement, and he goes to the gym. I spend two hours every Sunday making dog food (often listening to music), and sometimes he heads off to visit his parents. Late at night while I’m writing, sometimes he’s in the living room with me, and sometimes he goes to read in bed. I’m sure he needs his own space sometimes too…and I tend to think of the billiard room downstairs and the garage as his personal “spaces” to retreat to.
We don’t seem to need a lot of time apart…I know for me, the little bits here and there are plenty. I know that some couples tend to need more space than others though – my parents don’t tend to have the same interests, so while they do spend time together, they seem to spend more time apart than my husband and I.
How do you take time away from your spouse? Do you feel like you get enough? What are some of the things you do to work in “alone time”?