Do you believe in love at first sight?It’s a loaded question when you think about it, because in order to answer, I think we have to define what “love” is. And of course that means different things to each of us.
For me, love is more of a choice –because frankly, I don’t always “feel” love for the people close to me. Sometimes I get downright angry at them…but I choose to continue to love them regardless. To me love is choosing to make someone else’s needs important, to put them first in your life.
When I first saw my husband, it wasn’t love…or even lust, really. More like a very deep admiration for the man I knew him to be, coupled with an indescribable “connection”I felt with him. It was one-sided back then, I’m sure, because I was fifteen which would have made him twenty-five or six. Any sort of relationship would have been inappropriate then (and I knew it) –but I decided I wanted to marry someone just like him. Even prayed that I would. Never in a million years thought it would actually be him…
Our case isn’t exactly normal though.There was a lot of time and a lot of thought that happened before we even started dating. And honestly, I’ve loved other guys…but it wasn’t at first sight/meeting. I’ve certainly felt a fair amount of lust at first sight…but love is too big to just “happen”, in my opinion.
What’s your take on love at first sight? Do you believe it happens, or has it happened to you?