Everyday Romance: Love at First Sight

Do you believe in love at first sight?It’s a loaded question when you think about it, because in order to answer, I think we have to define what “love” is. And of course that means different things to each of us.

For me, love is more of a choice –because frankly, I don’t always “feel” love for the people close to me. Sometimes I get downright angry at them…but I choose to continue to love them regardless. To me love is choosing to make someone else’s needs important, to put them first in your life.

When I first saw my husband, it wasn’t love…or even lust, really. More like a very deep admiration for the man I knew him to be, coupled with an indescribable “connection”I felt with him. It was one-sided back then, I’m sure, because I was fifteen which would have made him twenty-five or six. Any sort of relationship would have been inappropriate then (and I knew it) –but I decided I wanted to marry someone just like him. Even prayed that I would. Never in a million years thought it would actually be him…

Our case isn’t exactly normal though.There was a lot of time and a lot of thought that happened before we even started dating. And honestly, I’ve loved other guys…but it wasn’t at first sight/meeting. I’ve certainly felt a fair amount of lust at first sight…but love is too big to just “happen”, in my opinion.

What’s your take on love at first sight? Do you believe it happens, or has it happened to you?

4 comments on “Everyday Romance: Love at First Sight

  1. Samantha Hunter

    Yep. Dh and I knew each other online for about 2 months when we exchanged pictures in the mail (he sent me one of those strips of “booth” pictures) — I saw his picture and that was that. When he came to visit the first time, it was just a done deal, and he moved in shortly after that. But it was when I saw that picture, something just clicked inside. I still carry that funny little picture in my wallet, and it’s all banged up, LOL, but I love it.


  2. Carol

    In my family you pretty much have to believe in love at first sight. 🙂

    My father proposed to my mother one month after their first date (she accepted the next day); my oldest sister was on a two-week vacation in the Bahamas and came back long enough to pack up and move because she was getting married; and it’s happened twice to my other sister (she was a widow the second time it happened).

  3. Meg

    I’m a strong believer in lust at first sight…

    Then again, I did meet my husband while I was 15 with raging hormones. Love was the farthest thing from me my.

    I think it’s possible, but that you actually have to talk to the person first. You may be enchanted by them, (and think it’s love at first sight) but if they open their mouth you’re utterly applaud, would it still be love like you thought?

    But, like I said, all my dating was during my hormone raging teen years. 😀

  4. Cynthia Schuerr

    I think your opinion changes about “love at first site” depending on where you are in your life and your age. I can actually agree with all of the comments above because I’ve been at all stages at different times. I think the real question lies in your definition of love. Just my thought.