I read an article a few months ago (can’t remember where) about how men whose wives read romance novels get more sex. As you may have guessed, those men had no objection to their wives reading a lot and some even went so far as to finance the library. No shock there.
I also read an article more recently (again, I can’t remember where – apologies for not citing my sources), about how some people think that romance novels lead people (specifically women) to have too high of expectations as far as romance goes. I interpreted this (right or wrong) to mean that men are feeling the pressure to actually be romantic, and I couldn’t really muster up any sympathy.
Personally, I’m “in the mood” more often when I’m actively reading romance novels. When I’m writing a scorcher scene, I tend to be a bit more inclined to seduce my husband as well. I haven’t heard any complaints, so I assume my husband approves.
As far as expecting more romance though – I wonder what the real issue is. Because honestly, the men in romance novels (or the ones I read, anyways) don’t make any more grand gestures that men in real life do, because let’s face it, we’d all recognize that as fiction right away.
So from what I can tell, fictional romance heroes only really ever do two things that real men still tend to resist. They learn how to communicate their feelings, and commit to the relationship they want. This involves facing fears, deciding what’s important in life, and transitioning from “playboy” to “man”.
If this is what women expect from men after reading romance novels – I really can’t see any problem with that. A lot of men should take note, in my opinion.
What do you think? Do you feel sexier and/or more romantic after reading a romance novel? Are romance novels affecting the way we look at men, and what we expect from them? Is that good, bad, or neither, in your opinion?