Everyday Romance: Talking ’bout Trust

I often use extreme situations in my stories to force a trust relationship between my hero and heroine. Obviously that’s not practical or something that happens in real life very often. A lot of comments from previous posts seem to indicate that trust is a very hard thing for most of us to give, and easy for us to lose as well.

This made me wonder – in the absence of those extreme circumstances, what makes us trust someone? And on the flip side, what’s the quickest way someone can lose our trust?

It’s a hard thing to pin down, in my opinion. For me, the main qualities I need from someone before I truly trust them are honesty and consistency. And conversely, dishonesty and inconsistency will make me constantly question the other person’s motives, never truly trusting them.

What makes you trust someone? And what one thing will make you walk away without a second thought?

2 comments on “Everyday Romance: Talking ’bout Trust

  1. Carol

    I’m one of those people who trust far too easily. I’m very straighforward, and probably a little naive, and I also tend to trust my gut feelings about a person. Yes, this does mean I get burned a lot, but I keep trusting anyway.

    I have to agree with you that inconsistancy and dishonesty are the surest way to lose my trust, and once it’s gone, good luck getting it back! 🙂

  2. India Drummond

    I generally trust most people, until they prove themselves dishonest. I will say hypocrisy bothers me more than little white lies.